Do you want your ex back? Never say these words
A one-sided break-up, sudden rejection: how do you deal with lost love... and try to find it again? To get closer to your ex and reconnect with the complicity of years gone by, it's best to forget those awkward things you said to each other from the outset.
After an unwanted separation, and when trying to win back a loved one, there's often a tendency to inundate the other person with promises and guarantees such as “I'll do everything for you”, “I'll change, I swear”, “I'll be more of this or more of that...” In reality, by using these phrases-resolutions, you're giving the other person, your ex, the impression that everything is taken for granted. A real love-killer and, let's face it, a total (and suffocating) sacrifice on your part.
At this point, it's more about happiness than love. How can we be happy with each other and blossom together? These are the big questions that must surely have crossed your ex's mind. Going back and ensuring an overnight change sends out the wrong signal, and means expecting the other person to make a decision when he or she may not yet be ready.
Finally, never get into negotiations or assert that the other person has got it all wrong: “We need to talk, I need to explain”, “but you don't understand what I'm trying to say...”, “you're wrong to think that things couldn't work between us”. Don't touch his ego by putting him down.
But... Show your ex, through concrete actions, that you've really changed! No big promises, just proof.
(MH with AsD/Illustration: Unsplash)